So I've neglected this thing quite a bit. Oh the busy last semesters of college.
Currently I'm stage managing a play called The Physicists by Friedrich Dürrenmatt. It's been a fun run. We open on Wednesday (11/3), thank God. I love my actors but I'm literally exhausted by them too. It should be a good show, but I'm going to hold my reservations till I see the damages done by their Halloween weekend extravaganzas.
Speaking of Halloween I'm rather excited for this years. I'm going as a she devil and as Flo from the the Progressive commercials. I decided a comfy Halloween is what I prefer this year.
I have a boy to drag with me to Halloween this year. Very out of place having a new relationship at this time of the year. But I'm enjoying our time together. He's good at dealing with my crazy. My real crazy. Esp late nights where I haven't eaten all day kinda nights and have no AC in my house kinda crazy. He's def gonna stick around for a while (I hope at least!).
Erm, I feel like this is a terribly lame post, but I'm too tired to come up with anything exciting. I'll find you something fun to read....
The difference between school and life? In school, you're taught a lesson and then given a test. In life, you're given a test that teaches you a lesson.- Tom Bodett
Thursday, October 28, 2010
Monday, June 7, 2010
Connecting the Dots
So today I was driving. No big deal right. After 7 years it's pretty easy right? Put on your seat belt, start the engine, put the car into drive, let off the brake, hit the gas, and go. All of this is second nature to us now. It's like walking, chewing, jumping, swimming, and all the other things we learn in our lives that you don't really pause to think about after you've learned them.
Maybe it's the heat and humidity in Charleston getting to me but it makes me wonder why don't think of this as more amazing. We're all too young when we learn to walk to remember the process. Certainly we all shared bruises and scrapped knees during the process, but now we just put one foot in front of the other and think nothing of it.
Most people can prob remember learning to ride a bike. I remember the roads I was on with one of my parents holding the back of seat on my bike while I tried to gain my balance so I could let go. I remember the freedom of getting around once I could ride without training wheels. Of course when you're that young staying out after dark is liberating enough, but you know what I mean.
Now, while riding a bike is still second nature (I might've lost some of the immediate balance when I got back on it 10 years later...), it doesn't have the same thrill. The feeling of success has taken a back burner to the notion my mind has that "I know how to do this, what's next?" A bike now is the thing I hop on 5 minutes before class and speed down the street hoping to find a moderatly empty bike rack.
I guess I'm just amazed at what human beings can learn to do so easily to the point that it is second nature. Again, heat and humidity contributing to my dehydration has much to do with this, but it's still interesting. I guess.
I feel like I had more of a point to this when I started contemplating this in the car...oh well. Here it is.
The major reason for setting a goal is for what it makes of you to accomplish it. What it makes of you will always be the far greater value than what you get.- Jim Rohn
Maybe it's the heat and humidity in Charleston getting to me but it makes me wonder why don't think of this as more amazing. We're all too young when we learn to walk to remember the process. Certainly we all shared bruises and scrapped knees during the process, but now we just put one foot in front of the other and think nothing of it.
Most people can prob remember learning to ride a bike. I remember the roads I was on with one of my parents holding the back of seat on my bike while I tried to gain my balance so I could let go. I remember the freedom of getting around once I could ride without training wheels. Of course when you're that young staying out after dark is liberating enough, but you know what I mean.
Now, while riding a bike is still second nature (I might've lost some of the immediate balance when I got back on it 10 years later...), it doesn't have the same thrill. The feeling of success has taken a back burner to the notion my mind has that "I know how to do this, what's next?" A bike now is the thing I hop on 5 minutes before class and speed down the street hoping to find a moderatly empty bike rack.
I guess I'm just amazed at what human beings can learn to do so easily to the point that it is second nature. Again, heat and humidity contributing to my dehydration has much to do with this, but it's still interesting. I guess.
I feel like I had more of a point to this when I started contemplating this in the car...oh well. Here it is.
The major reason for setting a goal is for what it makes of you to accomplish it. What it makes of you will always be the far greater value than what you get.- Jim Rohn
Thursday, April 29, 2010
New Holes, New Thoughts, New Chapter
So this semester got a little more hectic that I would've expected. What with the whole mono thing that was only to be expected. However, the semester is over and after two exams I'll be a free woman for the summer. HOLLA!
Yesterday, in celebration of the end of the year (a day later than everyone else since I had to work a double on reading day) my darling friend Meg and I went and got new piercings. We both got our Tragus pierced (not my ear btw). I went first due to my horrible fear of needles and boy am I glad I did. This frightening fish hook of a needle is what they used to pierce my ear. Not what I wanted to see when they did Meg's but I sure am glad I saw it after mine was done.
The acctual piercing itself wasn't too bad. For me it was just warm once the needle went through from it being in the sanitizer till right before the piercing (I'm very defiant that I don't need to see what you're sticking me with, I just wanna see the jewelry). Meg's reaction was slightly different involving a few dozen swear words and some very minor bleeding. But at the end of the day we're both pretty happy with what we got.
After I parted from Meg and her roommate Ashley who joined us for this adventure at Cupcake I headed home and starting thinking about my love of piercings. This piercing makes my ninth one. Two holes in both lobes, two in my upper cartiledge on the right, forward helix on the right, nose, and now my tragus on the left. There has generally been at least year between each piercing to give me time to really think about what I may or may not get next. I love all of my piercings. I don't wear all of them all the time because the effect is a little overwhelming sometimes but for now I wear everything often enough that they don't close up. But the question is why do I love piercings over tattoos or other body modifications?
Life is too full of change for me to want anything as permanant as a tattoo. Don't get me wrong, if I ever jumped the gun and got one I know exactly what I would get, but that's just not something I'm interested in. Plus the whole needles being jabbed into your skin 100s of times a minute isn't apppealing to me. The only thing in my life that I'll ever want to be as permanant as a tattoo will be the future hubby years down the road. Piercings don't hold the forever stigma with them. Yeah some people will look at you differently for having them but that's their perogitive. With piercings, when I reach "the real world" I can take them out and move on with my life. I won't have to worry about cover up or removal by lasers or any crazy shit like that. For now it's a fun way to express myself without going over board.
This is also the first piercing I've gotten while single in over 4 years. That might sound random and not connected at all, but it's like a new chapter. I'm not tied to anyone so the only person I care to ask an opinion on about getting a new piercing is myself. Not that any significant other in the past has has problems with piercings but it's one less person to ask. Now that we're moving into summer I'm looking at my first single summer in a few years as well. I think I'd like this care free summer before I think about moving into anytning else. Ignore anything I may have said before. I don't need to rush into anything yet. I think a full year of being single will be good for me. I've learned a lot about myself this year, and I still have more to learn before I commit to anything else. After two long back to back relationships I need to rediscover myself before I discover anyone else.
So I'm starting to ramble a little bit. Guess that means I'm gonna wrap this one up. But I will certainly work on keeping up with this better over the summer. I think...O:-)
I've continued to recognize the power individuals have to change virtually anything and everything in their lives in an instant. I've learned that the resources we need to turn our dreams into reality are within us, merely waiting for the day when we decide to wake up and claim our birthright.- Anthony Robbins
Yesterday, in celebration of the end of the year (a day later than everyone else since I had to work a double on reading day) my darling friend Meg and I went and got new piercings. We both got our Tragus pierced (not my ear btw). I went first due to my horrible fear of needles and boy am I glad I did. This frightening fish hook of a needle is what they used to pierce my ear. Not what I wanted to see when they did Meg's but I sure am glad I saw it after mine was done.
The acctual piercing itself wasn't too bad. For me it was just warm once the needle went through from it being in the sanitizer till right before the piercing (I'm very defiant that I don't need to see what you're sticking me with, I just wanna see the jewelry). Meg's reaction was slightly different involving a few dozen swear words and some very minor bleeding. But at the end of the day we're both pretty happy with what we got.
After I parted from Meg and her roommate Ashley who joined us for this adventure at Cupcake I headed home and starting thinking about my love of piercings. This piercing makes my ninth one. Two holes in both lobes, two in my upper cartiledge on the right, forward helix on the right, nose, and now my tragus on the left. There has generally been at least year between each piercing to give me time to really think about what I may or may not get next. I love all of my piercings. I don't wear all of them all the time because the effect is a little overwhelming sometimes but for now I wear everything often enough that they don't close up. But the question is why do I love piercings over tattoos or other body modifications?
Life is too full of change for me to want anything as permanant as a tattoo. Don't get me wrong, if I ever jumped the gun and got one I know exactly what I would get, but that's just not something I'm interested in. Plus the whole needles being jabbed into your skin 100s of times a minute isn't apppealing to me. The only thing in my life that I'll ever want to be as permanant as a tattoo will be the future hubby years down the road. Piercings don't hold the forever stigma with them. Yeah some people will look at you differently for having them but that's their perogitive. With piercings, when I reach "the real world" I can take them out and move on with my life. I won't have to worry about cover up or removal by lasers or any crazy shit like that. For now it's a fun way to express myself without going over board.
This is also the first piercing I've gotten while single in over 4 years. That might sound random and not connected at all, but it's like a new chapter. I'm not tied to anyone so the only person I care to ask an opinion on about getting a new piercing is myself. Not that any significant other in the past has has problems with piercings but it's one less person to ask. Now that we're moving into summer I'm looking at my first single summer in a few years as well. I think I'd like this care free summer before I think about moving into anytning else. Ignore anything I may have said before. I don't need to rush into anything yet. I think a full year of being single will be good for me. I've learned a lot about myself this year, and I still have more to learn before I commit to anything else. After two long back to back relationships I need to rediscover myself before I discover anyone else.
So I'm starting to ramble a little bit. Guess that means I'm gonna wrap this one up. But I will certainly work on keeping up with this better over the summer. I think...O:-)
I've continued to recognize the power individuals have to change virtually anything and everything in their lives in an instant. I've learned that the resources we need to turn our dreams into reality are within us, merely waiting for the day when we decide to wake up and claim our birthright.- Anthony Robbins
Saturday, February 20, 2010
Can I have more steriods please?
So it finally hit me, that darling little disease called mono.
Wonderful.
Now while I'm going to enjoy having extra time off of work and the abitlity to "relax" a lot more, I am quite ready for my tonsils to stop touching the the golf ball sized lymphnodes on my neck to go away. I'd also like to not look like a yellow-eyed creeper anymore. (Thanks for working so hard liver, but the side effects are super creepy)
Mono, the best birthday present ever! Also, I'm apparently not ever supposed to have a raging crazy birthday because we were going to make up for 21 this year since it was majorly low key last year. This year I got to spend my birthday in the fetal position because it was orginally thought that I didn't have mono so I was given amoxicillin....BAD NEWS BEARS! No good news will ever come of antibiotics and mono together. They aren't friends. Fastest and most painful diet ever? Yes.
Los padres did come to visit me for the day today. Since I'm finally able to eat food again (seriously, mono hate antibiotics) they took me to lunch to make up for my birthday and then took me grocery shopping which was awesome because I'm really tired of take out food. Plus it's just nice to have your parents take care of you when you feel like you've been run over by a truck.
the steriods to get the swelling in my throat down run out monday. i'm going to be a very sad panda when that happens because they are working wonderfully right now. cough drops just aren't cutting it in the time between doses either. boooooo
I apologize for this being a little ranty/scattered. I'm sick, so shoot me lol. I just want to feel awake and human like again.
The modern sympathy with invalids is morbid. Illness of any kind is hardly a thing to be encouraged in others.
-Oscar Wilde
Wonderful.
Now while I'm going to enjoy having extra time off of work and the abitlity to "relax" a lot more, I am quite ready for my tonsils to stop touching the the golf ball sized lymphnodes on my neck to go away. I'd also like to not look like a yellow-eyed creeper anymore. (Thanks for working so hard liver, but the side effects are super creepy)
Mono, the best birthday present ever! Also, I'm apparently not ever supposed to have a raging crazy birthday because we were going to make up for 21 this year since it was majorly low key last year. This year I got to spend my birthday in the fetal position because it was orginally thought that I didn't have mono so I was given amoxicillin....BAD NEWS BEARS! No good news will ever come of antibiotics and mono together. They aren't friends. Fastest and most painful diet ever? Yes.
Los padres did come to visit me for the day today. Since I'm finally able to eat food again (seriously, mono hate antibiotics) they took me to lunch to make up for my birthday and then took me grocery shopping which was awesome because I'm really tired of take out food. Plus it's just nice to have your parents take care of you when you feel like you've been run over by a truck.
the steriods to get the swelling in my throat down run out monday. i'm going to be a very sad panda when that happens because they are working wonderfully right now. cough drops just aren't cutting it in the time between doses either. boooooo
I apologize for this being a little ranty/scattered. I'm sick, so shoot me lol. I just want to feel awake and human like again.
The modern sympathy with invalids is morbid. Illness of any kind is hardly a thing to be encouraged in others.
-Oscar Wilde
Saturday, January 30, 2010
Hello from a Zombie
It's Saturday night. I'm sitting at home working on homework that is due Monday in the hopes that one of my friends will still be able to com visit tomorrow night. I just looked up in the mirror for a minute and I swear I just saw Zombie. Except...the pale faced, black-bags-under-the-eyes person staring back at me was, well, me.
Oh the college life and lack of sleep. Awesome. Now back to trying to learn the 200 pages of AP Style for Mass Media. Just had to laugh at myself for jumping at my own reflection.
Everything changes but change itself. Everything flows and nothing remains the same...You cannot step twice into the same river, for other waters and yet others go flowing ever on. - Heraclitus
Oh the college life and lack of sleep. Awesome. Now back to trying to learn the 200 pages of AP Style for Mass Media. Just had to laugh at myself for jumping at my own reflection.
Everything changes but change itself. Everything flows and nothing remains the same...You cannot step twice into the same river, for other waters and yet others go flowing ever on. - Heraclitus
Sunday, January 24, 2010
The girl with Curves
If you've ever seen a picture of me, you might have noticed two things about about me. I call them thing one and thing two - my big 'ol honkin' boobs. These giantic monsters have been with me since I was in late elem school/early middle school. Yes, they're 100% real and mostly exist due to the genetics on both sides of my family.
Now, why do I start this post talking about my breasts? Well I've been thinking a lot about my physical appearance recently, specifically after the new year. One of the things I promised myself (after promising to follow these resolutions since I broke the 5 year resolution of not making resolutions) was that was I was going to take better care of my physical self this year.
Now, I'm not talking about trying to mold myself into any kind of creepy-skinny-never-eats-enough kinda girl. Just treating my body better and doing things to take care of it. So I've started small so I can make sure I'll build upon this goal. I've continued with something I'd started a while back - portion control - and tried to throw in some more health consious foods. I also have continued the tradition of not denying myself things I'm craving. I won't gorge myself on any of it but I will eat what my body wants within reason.
Recently I've started walking. This trend didn't start as a I have to get healthy sorta craze. It actually started the night I talked about in my last posting. After that however I've come to enjoy a daily walk whenever I can get it in. I'm pretty successful at it Sun-Thurs. I just put my iPod on shuffle and walk around untill my body decides I've walked enough for the day (this usually hit after about an hour of walking around).
These walks have been very cleansing for days where I have a lot swirling through my mind. By the time I get home I feel a little lighter than I did when I left in terms of everything on my mind.
One of the things that has been on my mind recently is my body shape. I'm very proportionally built. This is one good thing I can say about myself. I'm fairly thick all around but it doesn't seem as much because I'm big 'ol damn boobs. However, even knowing I'm not built in a funky manner, I've always though of myself as fat. Always. Disgusting body image really. It really took me a long time to ever look in the mirror and like or at least be comfortable with what I saw there. It's gotten much better recently. Predominatly more so since I've been working on being better to myself. In that I've recently decided something: Yes, I'm going to continue walking and will eventually make it to the gym. However, this is not going to be an extremist I have to lose weight sort of idea. I just want my body to be and feel healthier. Orginally I had a weight goal in mind when I set this resolution to be better to myself, but I realized when I had the revelation about wanting to be healthier that at the end of the day if I met that weight goal I'd miss my curves and my figure. Yeah it's going to change some in the process of getting healthy, but I've always been a curvy girl and I realized I don't want that to change.
So, to my knockers and the body that is proportion to them - here's a healthier outlook on us. Cheers.
You cannot escape the results of your thoughts. Whatever your present environment may be, you will fall, remain or rise with your thoughts, your vision, your ideal. You will become as small as your controlling desire; as great as your dominant aspiration. - James Allen
Now, why do I start this post talking about my breasts? Well I've been thinking a lot about my physical appearance recently, specifically after the new year. One of the things I promised myself (after promising to follow these resolutions since I broke the 5 year resolution of not making resolutions) was that was I was going to take better care of my physical self this year.
Now, I'm not talking about trying to mold myself into any kind of creepy-skinny-never-eats-enough kinda girl. Just treating my body better and doing things to take care of it. So I've started small so I can make sure I'll build upon this goal. I've continued with something I'd started a while back - portion control - and tried to throw in some more health consious foods. I also have continued the tradition of not denying myself things I'm craving. I won't gorge myself on any of it but I will eat what my body wants within reason.
Recently I've started walking. This trend didn't start as a I have to get healthy sorta craze. It actually started the night I talked about in my last posting. After that however I've come to enjoy a daily walk whenever I can get it in. I'm pretty successful at it Sun-Thurs. I just put my iPod on shuffle and walk around untill my body decides I've walked enough for the day (this usually hit after about an hour of walking around).
These walks have been very cleansing for days where I have a lot swirling through my mind. By the time I get home I feel a little lighter than I did when I left in terms of everything on my mind.
One of the things that has been on my mind recently is my body shape. I'm very proportionally built. This is one good thing I can say about myself. I'm fairly thick all around but it doesn't seem as much because I'm big 'ol damn boobs. However, even knowing I'm not built in a funky manner, I've always though of myself as fat. Always. Disgusting body image really. It really took me a long time to ever look in the mirror and like or at least be comfortable with what I saw there. It's gotten much better recently. Predominatly more so since I've been working on being better to myself. In that I've recently decided something: Yes, I'm going to continue walking and will eventually make it to the gym. However, this is not going to be an extremist I have to lose weight sort of idea. I just want my body to be and feel healthier. Orginally I had a weight goal in mind when I set this resolution to be better to myself, but I realized when I had the revelation about wanting to be healthier that at the end of the day if I met that weight goal I'd miss my curves and my figure. Yeah it's going to change some in the process of getting healthy, but I've always been a curvy girl and I realized I don't want that to change.
So, to my knockers and the body that is proportion to them - here's a healthier outlook on us. Cheers.
You cannot escape the results of your thoughts. Whatever your present environment may be, you will fall, remain or rise with your thoughts, your vision, your ideal. You will become as small as your controlling desire; as great as your dominant aspiration. - James Allen
Monday, January 11, 2010
Frozen evenings and nostalgia
Well classes started back today. Ought to be an interesting semester. Maybe I'll even have some interesting stories for you all later in the semester. We'll certainly find out.
Today however I've found myself in rare form.
I consider myself a very strong person. I put up with a lot of shit. Really, most poeple would not stand for some of the things I've learned how to handle and work through with my friends. But again, this is a strength many people don't have. I'm aware of it, and my friends are aware of it. They've become better about recognizing and appriciating this quality more in recent weeks.
Today however I found myself in a very strange mood. I didn't sleep well sunday night so after I got home from classes I cleaned the kitchen up from cooking food for 30+ ppl on saturday and then tried to nap/relax. Well I didn't really relax....at all. My nap was more of a nightmare. I woke up sobbing because of the dream I had while I was napping.
Before I explain the dream, let first explain to everyone who may not know about my right eye. I'm for lack of a better explaination blind in that eye. I still have vision in it to a point but it's clairity is very limited and only on the left side of my vision in that eye. The rest is a big blurry mess that elminates parts of ppls faces and distorts pictures and other things I might be looking at with that eye. When both eyes are open my left eye is strong enough to cancell this anomaly out, but if for some reason I can only look with my right eye I'm basically blind. I've seen 9 different doctors, 10 including my regular optomitrist, and no one is sure why my eye is like this. It started as a hole in my Macula, and then progressed all the way to scheduling an MRI to make sure I didn't have occular cancer. Thankfully I'm cancer free but we still don't know what is wrong.
Anyway, I worry about this daily. I'm supposed to see my doctor in Feb for a follow up to see if anything has changed since my MRI. I'm petrified that they're going to find something new this time and it'll be something that can't be fixed with laser surgery or the like.
Today, I had a dream that I was in Charleston a few days after my upcoming doctors appt. Apparently, in the dream at least, I had several tests done that day and my doctor told us he'd call after he went over the results to let us know what he thought. The few days later happened to fall on my birthday in this dream. The phone call I got in the dream was that they'd found a mass on my optic nerve that extended to my brain. Well of course in the nightmare this equally epic cancer and when I woke up I was crying my eyes out.
This put me in a terribly funk for the rest of the day. I've been restless, nervous, tired, tense, and unwilling to socialize. At 10:30 I had a desperate need to walk. Beautiful timing for late night Charleston when all the crazies would be out. So arming myself with layers upon layers of warm clothing and my mace open and ready in case the worst should happen I decided to walk despite the hour. I was gone for about an hour, froze my ass off and still didn't feel any better.
Well what do I do to fix evenings such as these? Easy. First of all you have to understand I hate crying. I find it to be the ultimate sign of weakness. If I'm going to cry and get everything out I'm going to do it alone in the privacy of my own room so no one else has to see my weakness. Anyway, I digress. To fix evenings where I can pinpoint why the water works won't shut down I watch some sort of movie that is promised to make me cry, lock myself in my room, and then sob my face off. I show weakness only to myself. That is the only time it's acceptable. For me at least.
So tonight I watched a movie I purchased this summer and then never sat down to watch because I realized watching it would make me cry for hours. Marley & Me. A movie that is terribly adorably and quite hilarious. It is also one of the sadest movies I've ever watched in my life. Let's put into perspective how much that movie got to me...I just started tearing up remembering why I find it so sad.
If you know me well, you know I'm a passionate dog lover. My heart melts even for the ugliest dogs.
When I was about 6 or 7 we got our first dog. Callie. She was one of the smartest, most caring, most compassionate dogs I've ever known in my life. She knew before you were even through the door what kind of mood you were walking in with. You'd always get the same welcome home reaction, but she knew how to act towards you based off your mood after that. She was protective enough without being a frightening dog. She was priss too. Oh how she hated when it rained. Again though, going back to the point of why she was so damn smart because her water bowl would hardly be touched days it was raining. Callie didn't believe in wet paws.
The non-blurry one is Callie. This was Senior Year Farmers day right before the Dorman vs Spartan High Game
When I was in 8th grade, whatever age that equates to, we got our second dog Ginger. The idea behind this was Callie was getting older and we didn't want her to lose her spark. It certainly wasn't love at first site between the pair of them. Callie was not excited to be gated in the kitchen all day with a wild puppy who wasn't house broken yet. I wish I had pictures with me of the pair of them when Ginger was a puppy including Ginger sitting on Callie's head (incidentially she still fights by backing into things with her butt); the pair of them laying the same way on the floor (on their sides, legs straight out) one above the other; or the picture where Callie looks like she's protecting Ginger from me taking another picture. However, this puppy, who was picked after mom had the owner move the desk she was hiding under to see her (her favorite place to sleep is under the bed now), turned out to be a great little shadow for the stubborn old dog.
This is Ginger during Christmas 09. Thats an empty can of corned beef she protected and carried around for a good hour. She's adorable.
So, back to the two together. Callie demanded certain things as a sign of respect from Ginger. First, Ginger never got treats first. Ever. If for some reason we gave Ginger a treat first, Ginger wouldn't start eating hers untill Callie did. Going outside, Callie went first. Ginger didn't drink from the water bowl they shared while Callie was drinking. But that was about it. Other than that they were equals. They'd curl up next to each other in this gigantic ball of fluff. At night Callie slept in her dog bed and Ginger curled up under my parents bed. This was just the way things worked.
Time goes by however. Callie did eventually get old. She had achey joints, hard time eating, took longer going up and down the stairs, etc. (This is the point in the movie where I started sobbing uncontrolably because that was the worst thing to watch in real life and the movie). At one point her pain got so bad she couldn't make it up or down any flight of steps. We thought we were going to have to put her down when this happened. The vet however bought us some more time. He gave her two shots into her hips to ease her pain and she was put on a wet food diet so she could chew more easily and we could slip pain pills into her bowl. This was great for several weeks. We tried to get her to sleep downstairs, but she was a stubborn dog and refused to sleep anywhere that wasn't near mom. So she continued to hobble up and down the stairs despite our best efforts.
The hardest and sweetest part about this time was watching Ginger react to all of this. She knew something was wrong. How do you explain to a dog that her best friend is dying before her eyes? You can't. You can only stand by and watch as she does what in her mind is a way of helping. Little nudges, whimpers of encouragement, and the like. It was heartwrenching to watch.
Callie passed away about 3 years ago now. It's true what they say about dogs going somewhere outside to die if they can help it. She went in the back yard. When I got home that day I was told she'd passed not 15 minutes after I left for work that morning. I can't imagine if I'd been there. Mom and Brent heard her when it happened and where with her when she passed. Even my dad who is by nature a huge cat person cried some. It was terrible.
I still miss her. She really was like a big furry sister to me. Words can't describe how much I'll cry when it's Ginger's turn. I saw the first major signs that my baby was getting old at Christmas when my parents had raised their bed so Ginger could crawl under it more easily. That's going to be a terrible day when she dies.
But it's why I totally believe this video I'm going to use instead of my usual quote at the end. God made the Dog as an earth bound form of himself to have tangible undeniable love.
Also, excuse my blubbering. This again, is me in rare form.
Today however I've found myself in rare form.
I consider myself a very strong person. I put up with a lot of shit. Really, most poeple would not stand for some of the things I've learned how to handle and work through with my friends. But again, this is a strength many people don't have. I'm aware of it, and my friends are aware of it. They've become better about recognizing and appriciating this quality more in recent weeks.
Today however I found myself in a very strange mood. I didn't sleep well sunday night so after I got home from classes I cleaned the kitchen up from cooking food for 30+ ppl on saturday and then tried to nap/relax. Well I didn't really relax....at all. My nap was more of a nightmare. I woke up sobbing because of the dream I had while I was napping.
Before I explain the dream, let first explain to everyone who may not know about my right eye. I'm for lack of a better explaination blind in that eye. I still have vision in it to a point but it's clairity is very limited and only on the left side of my vision in that eye. The rest is a big blurry mess that elminates parts of ppls faces and distorts pictures and other things I might be looking at with that eye. When both eyes are open my left eye is strong enough to cancell this anomaly out, but if for some reason I can only look with my right eye I'm basically blind. I've seen 9 different doctors, 10 including my regular optomitrist, and no one is sure why my eye is like this. It started as a hole in my Macula, and then progressed all the way to scheduling an MRI to make sure I didn't have occular cancer. Thankfully I'm cancer free but we still don't know what is wrong.
Anyway, I worry about this daily. I'm supposed to see my doctor in Feb for a follow up to see if anything has changed since my MRI. I'm petrified that they're going to find something new this time and it'll be something that can't be fixed with laser surgery or the like.
Today, I had a dream that I was in Charleston a few days after my upcoming doctors appt. Apparently, in the dream at least, I had several tests done that day and my doctor told us he'd call after he went over the results to let us know what he thought. The few days later happened to fall on my birthday in this dream. The phone call I got in the dream was that they'd found a mass on my optic nerve that extended to my brain. Well of course in the nightmare this equally epic cancer and when I woke up I was crying my eyes out.
This put me in a terribly funk for the rest of the day. I've been restless, nervous, tired, tense, and unwilling to socialize. At 10:30 I had a desperate need to walk. Beautiful timing for late night Charleston when all the crazies would be out. So arming myself with layers upon layers of warm clothing and my mace open and ready in case the worst should happen I decided to walk despite the hour. I was gone for about an hour, froze my ass off and still didn't feel any better.
Well what do I do to fix evenings such as these? Easy. First of all you have to understand I hate crying. I find it to be the ultimate sign of weakness. If I'm going to cry and get everything out I'm going to do it alone in the privacy of my own room so no one else has to see my weakness. Anyway, I digress. To fix evenings where I can pinpoint why the water works won't shut down I watch some sort of movie that is promised to make me cry, lock myself in my room, and then sob my face off. I show weakness only to myself. That is the only time it's acceptable. For me at least.
So tonight I watched a movie I purchased this summer and then never sat down to watch because I realized watching it would make me cry for hours. Marley & Me. A movie that is terribly adorably and quite hilarious. It is also one of the sadest movies I've ever watched in my life. Let's put into perspective how much that movie got to me...I just started tearing up remembering why I find it so sad.
If you know me well, you know I'm a passionate dog lover. My heart melts even for the ugliest dogs.
When I was about 6 or 7 we got our first dog. Callie. She was one of the smartest, most caring, most compassionate dogs I've ever known in my life. She knew before you were even through the door what kind of mood you were walking in with. You'd always get the same welcome home reaction, but she knew how to act towards you based off your mood after that. She was protective enough without being a frightening dog. She was priss too. Oh how she hated when it rained. Again though, going back to the point of why she was so damn smart because her water bowl would hardly be touched days it was raining. Callie didn't believe in wet paws.
The non-blurry one is Callie. This was Senior Year Farmers day right before the Dorman vs Spartan High GameWhen I was in 8th grade, whatever age that equates to, we got our second dog Ginger. The idea behind this was Callie was getting older and we didn't want her to lose her spark. It certainly wasn't love at first site between the pair of them. Callie was not excited to be gated in the kitchen all day with a wild puppy who wasn't house broken yet. I wish I had pictures with me of the pair of them when Ginger was a puppy including Ginger sitting on Callie's head (incidentially she still fights by backing into things with her butt); the pair of them laying the same way on the floor (on their sides, legs straight out) one above the other; or the picture where Callie looks like she's protecting Ginger from me taking another picture. However, this puppy, who was picked after mom had the owner move the desk she was hiding under to see her (her favorite place to sleep is under the bed now), turned out to be a great little shadow for the stubborn old dog.
This is Ginger during Christmas 09. Thats an empty can of corned beef she protected and carried around for a good hour. She's adorable.
So, back to the two together. Callie demanded certain things as a sign of respect from Ginger. First, Ginger never got treats first. Ever. If for some reason we gave Ginger a treat first, Ginger wouldn't start eating hers untill Callie did. Going outside, Callie went first. Ginger didn't drink from the water bowl they shared while Callie was drinking. But that was about it. Other than that they were equals. They'd curl up next to each other in this gigantic ball of fluff. At night Callie slept in her dog bed and Ginger curled up under my parents bed. This was just the way things worked.
Time goes by however. Callie did eventually get old. She had achey joints, hard time eating, took longer going up and down the stairs, etc. (This is the point in the movie where I started sobbing uncontrolably because that was the worst thing to watch in real life and the movie). At one point her pain got so bad she couldn't make it up or down any flight of steps. We thought we were going to have to put her down when this happened. The vet however bought us some more time. He gave her two shots into her hips to ease her pain and she was put on a wet food diet so she could chew more easily and we could slip pain pills into her bowl. This was great for several weeks. We tried to get her to sleep downstairs, but she was a stubborn dog and refused to sleep anywhere that wasn't near mom. So she continued to hobble up and down the stairs despite our best efforts.
The hardest and sweetest part about this time was watching Ginger react to all of this. She knew something was wrong. How do you explain to a dog that her best friend is dying before her eyes? You can't. You can only stand by and watch as she does what in her mind is a way of helping. Little nudges, whimpers of encouragement, and the like. It was heartwrenching to watch.
Callie passed away about 3 years ago now. It's true what they say about dogs going somewhere outside to die if they can help it. She went in the back yard. When I got home that day I was told she'd passed not 15 minutes after I left for work that morning. I can't imagine if I'd been there. Mom and Brent heard her when it happened and where with her when she passed. Even my dad who is by nature a huge cat person cried some. It was terrible.
I still miss her. She really was like a big furry sister to me. Words can't describe how much I'll cry when it's Ginger's turn. I saw the first major signs that my baby was getting old at Christmas when my parents had raised their bed so Ginger could crawl under it more easily. That's going to be a terrible day when she dies.
But it's why I totally believe this video I'm going to use instead of my usual quote at the end. God made the Dog as an earth bound form of himself to have tangible undeniable love.
Also, excuse my blubbering. This again, is me in rare form.
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